Risk

So I have been having a bit of an internal struggle about whether or not to say something to my best friend about her boy situation. Do I risk having her be mad at me for voicing my honest opinion or just keep my mouth shut as I watch her go down a destructive path?



Having sex with someone a few times doesn't mean anything these days. Not if you just visit them to have sex. It really only means anything these days if you manage to hold out for a while before giving it up- preferably by having a title to what you are as a couple and being exclusive. If you give it up right after meeting and then you continue along a f*ck buddy path, that is all you are. If one person says they don't want a relationship and are just looking for fun, do not expect them to suddenly change their mind and be your boyfriend/girlfriend. You can not get jealous when they hang out with other people of the opposite sex. Well, that is untrue, you can get jealous, but you certainly can't get mad. Just because you have had sex, that doesn't mean you get any kind of claim.

So what do you do when you see your best friend getting herself worked up and upset and her heart broken over and over because of a situation like that. When the boy she likes has made is apparent time and time again that he is not going to give her what she wants. Do you risk saying things in the hope to get through to her and for her to see what she is doing to herself or just say nothing and watch it happen?

Sometimes it is almost as if I am reliving a storyline from The Hills, namely, the Lauren/Heidi/Spencer one. That's not exactly what I want to happen because we all know how that ended- Lauren loses her best friend. And this boy is not worth it. Then again, is any boy worth ruining a friendship? I'd like to hope not.  I'd like to hope that the friend will take your thought to heart and even if she is mad at you, she will eventually realize that it was out of love and not any kind of malicious intent. Here's to hoping.